Where is the support.....just letting off steam!
sorry if I’ve posted something similar before but all of you give such useful and wonderful advice.
As some of you know my dear hubby has had a rough couple of weeks including two hospital stays due to having a blocked bowel/stoma, and again it feels like we have coped with this alone and just got on with it. Our lives are like a roller coaster of emotions, as you all well know, and it helps when you feel love, support and kindness from others. The future is so uncertain and you need a support network, and from people you are certain will be there for you through thick and thin.
I have now stopped putting any posts up on FB because I think some people feel that adding a “like” your post is enough to justify that they are keeping in touch and offering their support! One of my friends hasn’t bothered with me in 18 months, even though we used to be close, and it makes it difficult when we bump into each other, its so awkward. I get angry sometimes and want to message her about how I feel but I really don’t like to hurt or upset anyone, its really not like me!
My hubby worries for me that I won’t have anyone close if anything were to happen to him, but its now I need them not in the future when its too late!
I haven’t seen my oldest friend in 7 months, and I’ve not heard anything from her now in over a month, and though I know she is busy with work she has still let me down a lot over the last few months. It was my birthday in Jan and she promised to treat me to lunch but it never happened, and then she promised to see me in Feb and March, again nothing and so it was completely forgotten about.
I have a dilemma now though because I bought tickets at Christmas (hers was a gift from me) for us to go and see our favourite group, and they have just arrived, as its in two weeks time and I don’t know what to do!
I know for certain that when I let her know then she will definitely make time for that, even though she hasn’t managed to make time for me.
A friend at work suggested that I take hubby, make a night of it and then tell my pal at a later date that I completely forgot about the concert with everything that's been going on.
Though it sounds a good idea, I’m not too sure if I can do that, but its still possible that she may get in touch before then as you only need to Google search to find out the date of the concert. I know that I will feel aggrieved if we do end up going. Any advice on this please?(sorry its swerved from topic).
Some of our family members seem to think that all is hunky dory, and that if ever there is an emergency then we will let them know ,so that they can rally round!, I’m fed-up with feeling like we have to inform everyone, why can’t people stay in touch, I’m not asking for them to do this every day or week, but I have done this with friends and family in the past, its not so hard to show your support and love, surely!
It makes me feel so sad and alone sometimes!