Husband just diagnosed
Hi, my husband, aged 59, has just been diagnosed and we are both reeling at the moment. He has Lynch Syndrome, which meant an increased risk of bowel cancer, and he was having colonoscopies every 2 years which were supposed to be preventive.
2 years ago they found a large polyp which was removed - there were several follow-up visits but these only looked at the lower bowel. This time we went along for his colonoscopy and they said they had found a large ulcerated cancerous tumour in the upper bowel, and also another small tumour. We are now waiting for him to have a CT scan - he has had a blood test and was supposed to hear back on Friday when he would have the scan but has not heard so now we are waiting to hear on Monday.
They said that if it was operable they would probably remove the whole bowel, but if it wasn't operable he would be "passed to oncology to manage". He is convinced this means he is going to die (his dad died of this aged 39) and is in absolute panic. I'm also very upset and sure that I'm saying the wrong things although I'm trying to be strong for him. He had not had any symptoms that he had noticed. Can anyone give me any advice about the right things to say, and whether it would be a good idea for him to get anti-anxiety meds of some type while we are waiting to find out what the prognosis is? Many thanks for listening.